The moon is always changing, and in our birth chart is shows our evolutionary growth. Though the moon is overall a gentle and benefic planet, in Vedic Astrology the moon is considered to be either Cruel (krura) or Gentle (saumya) depending on whether it’s waxing or waning. This detail describes the moons influence on manifestation or separation in our lives.
The waning moon is more about obtaining inner fulfillment through releasing, or letting go of something. The waning moon must learn to acknowledge why it feels it needs something, then let it go in order to obtain inner fulfillment. For this reason, the waning moon is considered “cruel” – because letting go is a less enjoyable process than simply gaining. The waxing moon, on the other hand, will grow while getting to keep what it has already gained.
For example, if your moon is waning in the 7th house, you may have a lot of relationships end in order to learn that you don’t need a partner to feel happy, and will gain more inner fulfillment through that loss. With a waning Moon in the 2nd house it can cause resources to diminish, but become less materialistic in the process. In this way, for the waning moon, every time a new need is met, another need has to be let go.
If you have a waning moon, don’t feel too bad about this, as this is the way life often is. In order to grow, in order to go inwards and find inner fulfillment we often have to release some things in life, whether it’s a position, resources, a relationship, etc. Positive aspects from other planets and having the moon in good dignity will make these lessons or letting go an easier process. In some situations, the process may not be painful at all, you’ll simply outgrow something as your inner needs become met, and make the choice to let go of something in your life.
The waxing Moon causes the house in which it is situated to grow and thrive as life continues. The waxing Moon is considered a benefic or gentle planet for this reason – because it gives externally without sacrifice.